Gender identity and gender-based violence - (Simultaneous Translation)
Chairman: Vanda Romagnoli
Lea Melandri - The unsuspected link between love and violence
Marco Deriu - Gender violence, wars and ecological threats: what changes if men change?
1 - The male dominion has never failed, but for a century there have been great changes in the relationship between the sexes. The strongest earthquake was produced by feminism in the 1970s, as a radical criticism of the roles of the masculine and the feminine, their supposed "naturalness", the cancellation of female sexuality and of women as an individual, to the sexual division of labor, to motherhood as destiny. It is there, in the domestic sphere, that women have shown that they no longer want to be a body available to others. Separations, divorces, the growing number of women living alone are materially and symbolically proof that the millennial female "oblativity", as "self-sacrifice", is failing. As a result, insecurity, a sense of failure and helplessness increase in man, an intolerable awareness of his addiction, which has so far been masked or removed. If, despite everything, the idealization of the family is so lasting, perhaps it is because it is in the interiors of the houses that the nostalgia of the son-man returns, the power of the mother-woman's indispensability and the residues of a declining patriarchal dominion return to be confused . We must therefore ask ourselves what part love has - as an extension, albeit an illusory one, of the original unity with the mother's body - in maintaining the ambiguity that lurks in the family, love and sexual ties.
2 - In the contemporary world, despite science, democracy and economic well-being, violence has not disappeared either at micro or macro level, even if it has taken new forms: persistent civil wars and global terrorism, economic violence and increased inequalities, degradation of the environment and climate crisis, forced migration and new walls, feminicides and threats to women's rights. Instead of focusing on the symptoms of this violence, we need to question the culture and mentality that produced them. And in this question men and male culture hold a special responsibility. Patriarchal heritage, modern forms of sexism, obsession with production and profit, speak of a male difficulty in dealing with the precariousness and vulnerability of life, to recognize the centrality of relationships and interdependencies on which it establishes all living things, and consequently to take on a full responsibility for caring for people and the world. The challenges to which we are called therefore require a transformation of social, political and economic forms, but before that a transformation of masculine culture. It is necessary to tell the present moment also as an opportunity to reinvent another masculinity, another way of being of being men, or a different relationship with others but also with oneself.